The fact that a woman has kids without a partner doesn’t make her a bad person in and of itself. There are plenty of situations where they get screwed (literally and figuratively) by some guy leaving them holding 50lbs of a crying mess. This is not an attack on single mothers, no need to bash them. They aren’t (all) bad people, they just make terrible partners (more often than not).

Now that I said that, no, a childless man should never date a single mother. Unless you are just having fun, there is no reason to complicate your life like this. I have done it; it rarely works out well. Even at my age of 47 there are plenty of women without kids. Yeah, childless women in their late 30’s-40s’ have their own set of problems, but oh well. Let me give you the 12 Reasons why you should never date single mothers

1 Why you Should Never Date Single Mothers: All the Responsibility, none of the Discipline

Imagine this scenario, little Jonny hits you in the back of your head with his sippy cup and tells you to f*ck off. Now of course if that was my kid a backhand would be a-comin. No, not here, little Jonny could do no wrong in mommies eyes and we aren’t allowed to discipline him. These kids can walk all over you and you can’t say a damn thing.

You are not supposed to discipline another person’s child, regardless of how bad they are behaving. Now, on the other hand, mom is getting tequila with the girls, you have to babysit. Little Jonny’s fat arse needs a ride to soccer practice so he can sit on the sidelines. It’s all you. You see you are responsible for this kid, but you can’t discipline him.

It is like if you are at a museum and he breaks something, you are paying. How did he get that way in the first place? No rules were put on him. It is the worst of both worlds. You are only there when it is convenient for the single mother. Don’t date a single mother and put yourself through that.

2 Dealing with Fathers

As mentioned, try disciplining another man’s kid and see how it turns out. Even outside of that do you really want to see the man who banged your girl stopping by your house and rummaging through your things? Eighty percent of the time the guy is rightfully bitter because the courts took his kids from him. You’re some dude that is getting in the way of a happy family.

Playing stepdaddy might seem cute until you realize the real dad is over there. I have never seen the situation be a good one. There is always animosity between the dad and the new guy. This may be your home, yet someone else has a say as to how it is run, I’ll pass on that one.

3 They Have No Time

I like dating women without kids, I want a drink on a Tuesday morning, I call her and say let’s roll. If I want to go away for the weekend, it is not a problem. Try this with a single mommy. Nope there is a PTA meeting or some stupid cr*p like that. The same thing would happen if it was your kid, but it is your kid.

It is like planning the invasion of Normandy if you want to go on a date. We need a babysitter or check with the kid’s dad. There is always something. Not having the time for you is yet another reason why you should never date single mothers.

4. The Kids Always Come First.

Go on a dating site and read the profiles of single mothers. First sentence is “I have three kiddos (women please stop saying that) who always come first”. Just what I want, someone in my life who is already putting others in front of me.

Can I put other people in front of her…. OHHHH NO. Kids are different. Agreed, they are. So, I will pass on playing second fiddle. Their feelings matter more. Their time matters more, and she will always do what is best for them, even at the expense of you. You aren’t a partnership. You are a sap. Do not sign up to be second (or third, fourth, f*ck even the dog is probably more important than you) just go with a childless woman.

5. Don’t Date Single Moms: You Might Like (and lose) the Kid

Picture this scenario, little Jonny isn’t an arse hole but a good kid. You date his mother and you’re one big happy family. Everything is going great, you play catch, walk him to his school bus, take him to strip clubs, you know whatever it is fathers and sons do. Then BAM. Mom wants to trade up.

What chance do you have of ever seeing that kid again? None. Hell, if a biological father could be forced to go months if not years without seeing his kids, you will never see him. Everyone focuses on the burden a kid brings, but if you actually start to treat him like family, his loss will hurt just as bad. Now you have to deal with losing the girl and the kid. This after you put in the effort.

6. The Mother might Have Questionable Morals

This one will piss off some of the mothers, but the truth is the truth. Don’t date single mothers because some have questionable morals. Yes, NOT ALL DO, every circumstance is different, but they definitely lean towards bad choices, if not disgusting behavior.

To start with, they may have picked the wrong person to have kids with one (or many) terrible dudes. Now they are settling for you. This does not mean they will stop sleeping with these other guys, just that they are settling. Already they have poor judgement. A second scenario is they broke up a happy family to see what else is out there. Most divorces are caused by women and no the men aren’t (all) terrible. The women get bored and want to “live their best life”. No one needs that kind of person. Yes, there are other scenarios, but the above are all too common.

7. Money

Who wants less money? I mean a lot less. Anyone who takes on the “responsibility” of being a stepdad. If you’re a single dude, why are you wasting your money on someone else’s kids. I can’t tell you how many people who I ran into that are dealing with fathers that do not pay for anything. Even if they do the mother will use the child support to buy clothes and make you buy groceries. It is madness.

Every vacation, every movie night there are one, two, or three extra mouths to feed. Who do you think is ponying up for a babysitter? I have even heard of women that try to get their DATES to pay for a sitter. Nope, not my mistake, not my responsibility. Don’t date single mothers unless you hate watching your bank account grow.

8. You Are an Outsider

Let’s face it, you are the odd man out in any relationship with a single mother. The kids want the family the way it was. They have a history. You do not. You’re just some dude stepping into a place the kids don’t want you to. You will always be an outsider.

When you are cast aside, you are alone. The kids will forget about you. I cannot imagine a relationship where there is a unit, and I am on the outside of this unit. Hell, even the cat will look at you as someone weaseling into their territory. F*ck the pets and the feeling of being an onlooker, Start your own unit.

9. Proof of Her Past

This one might be more specific to me, but I am a bit jealous. I know most of the women these days have a body count higher than Rambo, but I do not need proof. Do we really need the trophy of her former man’s conquests sticking their hands in your cereal box? Everyone has a past; I do not need to see it.

10. Why you Don’t Date Single Mothers: Too Many Complications

All of this leads to too many complications. Kids complicate life. You accept that when they are yours, this is the unit you created. Why sign up to be distracted by another’s issues? Relationships work best when they are easy. Yes, there will always be tough times, but someone else’s kids make them tougher.

You’ll know where you stand or what your place is. Your life, goals, dreams come second to people who can be ripped from you. All of this blended family cr*p is a lie. Your parents, relatives and friends will never look at them like they are yours. All you get is a complication if you sign up to be with a single mother

11. You Could Be Legally Responsible

Say you are merely dating a woman, move her and her spawn into your home. Things are going great until you catch her in a three way with the neighbor and the guy who works at Starbucks. She moves out, case closed right… Not so Fast.

I pulled this definition from this site here: Because of this, a legal parent who is not biologically related to the child but has played a significant role in the child’s life may be responsible for child support if they divorce or separate from the child’s biological parent. Other terms for this would be “equitable paternity,” and “parentage by estoppel.” Obviously, each state has different laws, I am saying it is a possibility.

If you played a “significate role” (wtf does that mean), you could be held responsible. Sounds fair right? Of course you will never see the kid again but your wallet is smaller. The laws are never on the side of men. Just another risk to dating a single mother.

12. You Will Never Be Their Father

This one will hurt. You aren’t their dad. You will never be their dad. I know someone who calls them “his kids.” They call him by his first name. No matter how many lifetime movies say otherwise, you are not their father.

This is especially true when the dad is in the picture. He will always be number one. No matter how many Playstations you buy or trips to the zoo you make. That’s their dad… and most likely that is who they want tucking them in at night.

It gets even more painful with your woman. If you and her never have kids she will have a bond with her ex that you cannot match. The father of her kids. You are always running behind. Do not fool yourself into thinking otherwise.

Conclusion: 12 Reasons Why you Should Never Date Single Mothers

That is my revamp version of why you should never date single mothers. There are exceptions perhaps, and I will mention them in another post. For now, if you can avoid it, do not be a piggy bank for a single mother. Find a younger woman you can grow your life with.

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The story goes on to blame porn and social media to account for why men aren’t pairing up. Sure, but that only explains the men that are not looking. Yes, that is part of it and it doesn’t bode well for the future of dating. So why are so many young men single? I think so many young men are single, because they either gave up playing the rigged game of dating or are being shoved out by the top men getting multiple partners. It is basically both choosing to be single and having singlehood thrust upon them.

Why So Many Men Choose to Be Single: They Step Out of the Game

The first reason why so many men are single is that too many women these days are just not worth the effort anymore. They want perfection from us while they put no care into themselves. Today’s women are heavier and less attractive. Today’s men are as well, so that is not a shot only on women. Those of us that do try see fewer good options.

There are slim pickings for normal guys, while women get attention from 1000 men at a time, no matter how low quality they are. Dating sites make it worse. How many conversations do I have to be ghosted on or dates that stand me up until I step out of the game. There seems to be plenty of other men to take our place. Do not believe me? Look at any attractive girls Instagram feed, you have a plethora of thirsty guys giving them attention. Normal men are just checking out.

Life has too much to offer for us to waste our resources on women. Yes, there are good ones out there. Those are unicorns, I do not care enough to be chasing ladies all over town, just to be ghosted. Women think they are the prize, if that is the case, I don’t want to play the game.

Men Have Little to Offer

So many young men are single because they have nothing to offer women. Besides giving them free attention on Social Media sites, they don’t bring anything to the table. Women have fallen off, but so have their suiters. We men do not have that same luxury of letting ourselves go. Men make less money, are less educated (not necessarily a bad thing), are in worse shape then in the past.

Women want higher value men yet so many of us would rather play video games than take care of ourselves. Being overweight or living with their mom used to be something that men were ashamed of. Now all men act like victims in the United States . Maybe it is too much porn and video games like the article states. The drive seems gone. We used to chase excellence, now too many men chase Doritos to the couch. If you want a quality woman worth dating, be a quality man. Stop complaining and get your sh*t together.

Women’s Ridiculous Standards

Now that I acknowledged the above, at times I see why men do not even try. Women have crazy standards. It feels like even when in a relationship they are always looking for better. Must be over 6’2, making 200K/year and willing to watch my three children when I go out with the girls. So many good men are disqualified because the fives and sixes are chasing the men at the top.

Dating apps just magnifies the problem. Women that I wouldn’t look twice at in the real world now feel empowered to be extra choosy, because of all the attention they get. Given that the ratio is 3 to 1 on these sites it puts us guys at a disadvantage. Since this is primarily the way people meet, we men are left holding the bag. It doesn’t help that the world tells even the most “well rounded” woman that she deserves it all. Ladies want only the cream of the crop, normal or even high-quality men don’t stand a chance. Combined that with how much men have fallen off it is a surprise anyone is dating. Yet 65% of women say they are in a relationship? These numbers do not add up.

Who Are the Women Dating

Once again, I am brought to the question, who are these women dating? If only 35% of young men are in a relationship (or dating) but 65% of females there isn’t a lot of things it could be. Yes, some might be going older, but they must be dating 60-year-olds, that can’t explain it.

Let me look into some of the possibilities and show you what I believe the only real conclusion is. It may be a combination of things, but there is only one true explanation.

Themselves?

Maybe women are dating themselves. That would account for some of the difference. According to this article about 7% of women say they are gay. OK, that takes some off the market. At the same time only 4.9% of men say they are gay. If these men avoid relationships at the same rate as straight men, this could account for some of the discrepancy. Still the swing is like 30%, between men who are dating and women who are. This is just a drop in the bucket.

Sometimes They do Older

I touched on this already, I do not think that this is the main answer. If it was you would see a lot more 40-year-old women single than men. But even in this category there are more single men than women. It isn’t until we get to over 50 that the numbers start to even out.

I guess part of the explanation why many young men are single could be explained by men dating ten years younger. It is not like a 25-year-old can do that unless he wants to meet Chris Hansen on to catch a predator. Yes, older men might be more of a catch given we are more financially stable and have our shite together. Still the numbers do not add up.

Only plausible Theory: Women are Sharing Men

To me there is only one way to explain why so many young men are single and so many young women are not. The women are sharing the top 5% to 10% of men. They may not know they are sharing these men or are simply lying to themselves that they will leave their wives or girlfriends, but a lot of men are double dipping. If the top 75% of women only go out with the top 10% of men (in terms of attractiveness) that leaves a lot of men out of the loop.

These women might think they are in a committed relationship, when, they are dating a guy with a family of five or are with someone who is just stringing them along. What is the saying? Women would rather share a successful man than be attached to a faithful loser. Well to them a loser is someone not making 200K and isn’t 6.2ft tall. This is all playing out in the dating market. We have a perfect storm of the majority of younger men not giving a damn about dating and women who only date the top. This does not bode well for our future.

The increase of women in the workforce has made this worse. Now she wants someone on her level or higher. Well, if she makes 120K a year as a HR director, then only Chad Thunderpants who is making 200K will do. Unfortunately for everyone, those jobs are rare for men.

Terrible For Men on a Whole

This is all just a bigger problem for males in general. The majority are going to be lonely, sexless, and unfulfilled. Society really does not care about us anyway. Yet what society can succeed with the majority of young men living in their parent’s basement without a partner? We are getting lonelier and more isolated; the problem is only getting worse.

So many men are not even trying to date. Most of those that do try are not desirable, because they are taught not to be winners. “Love yourself how you are” is forced into their head since grade school. Meanwhile women will be unhappy because they will always be trying to trade up. There is a reason why there are fewer marriages and an increase in divorces. Something has to give or all of society will be single.

Conclusion: Why are So many Young Men Single

Men are trying less, while women’s standards are increasing. We are all f*cking up. The best thing you as an individual can do is to self-improve. Be the best version of yourself and become desirable to others. The game sucks these days, but I am not at a place to say we should stop playing. Video games and Cheetos can’t replace a good sex life. Just my two cents.

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I grew up with an alcoholic mother and it pretty much destroyed my family. My father, put up with this behavior for too long and his life was hell. My childhood was fairly normal, if the cops coming to your house at 3:00am is normal. Do yourself a favor, it is better to be alone than to date an alcoholic or drug addict. You think I would have learned this earlier, but even after my childhood I was with a crazy drunk for almost a year. I will get to my story later, first things first.

Spotting an Alcoholic

Does your date not have a license at 30? Are there plenty of drinks being consumed on the first date? These are all telltale signs of an alcoholic. I enjoy a good whiskey or two as much as the next guy, Although I am slowing down in my old age (my liver may disagree). If you are dating someone and every date ends with her sloshed do not ignore this. It will only get worse. Really watch how much your date consumes on the first date (man or woman), this says a lot. If she is willing to do this with a stranger, what happens when she is more comfortable?

Also, how did you meet? Was it 1am at a bar and she was still ordering double vodka tonics, it may be a red flag. Of course, you were there also, so maybe watch yourself as well! Another thing to look for is any personality changes when drinking. I am not just talking about being extra chatty or loose. I am talking about violent or obnoxious behavior. If this happens on a regular basis (or more than once) it might be time to run. Anyone you see drunk more than sober is going to be a problem, below are the risks of dating an alcoholic.

#1 Reason to Never Date an Alcoholic: Money

Maybe not the primary reason, but an important point none the less. Dating an alcoholic can be expensive for a variety of reasons. First, alcohol is expensive in general. It my simpier days I remember this woman I was dating racking up a bar bill of almost $400 … she was just buying shots for everyone and 5 for herself. She was a drunk.

Then there is the damage control money. Like I said, I was a simp, so take this with a grain of salt. I remember her crying to pay for a lawyer after she got yet another DUI. Lawyers are expensive. It was that or see her go to jail, I chose to waste my money helping her. I should have let her rot in jail.

Then there is the inevitable damage an alcoholic will cause. Your car, her car, smashing things, it adds up. My mother once crashed our car into our other car, causing $5000 + worth of damages. That and broken lamps and hell medical bills from the injuries it all screws your finances up.

#2 Reason to Never Date an Alcoholic: Stress

Besides the financial cost of dating an alcoholic, there is the stress and embarrassment caused. Constantly making excuses for their poor behavior to your friends and or family is torture. Never knowing if and when there will be a fight because this person is out of their mind is not easy either. The uncertainty of it all can consume your life.

Most of the time they don’t even remember what they did or who they offended. An alcoholic will wake up the next morning like everything is fine. Meanwhile your boss is looking at you sideways because your partner showed her arse at the Christmas party. Never date an alcoholic, it isn’t worth the stress and embarrassment.

#3 Reason to Never Date an Alcoholic: They Can ruin your Life

I have so many different stories on this one from friends and relatives about the utter destruction a person who abuses alcohol has caused. When a female alcoholic inevitably gets violent, who goes to jail? Hint, not the woman? Nope. She can hit you and call the cops, yet no one will believe you are innocent. More likely you as a man will be arrested and thrown out of your house.

Good luck explaining it to your employer. She acts the fool; you lose your job. Never date an alcoholic. Period. Having a relationship with someone like this or god forbid marrying one will destroy your life. It is only a matter of time until she is arrested, you are arrested, there is some kind of fight, or she wakes up under the mailman.

There are too many scenarios to list. My friend was driving his crazy ex-girlfriend home because she was intoxicated, he has a few, but not a lot. He gets pulled over, the cop was ready to let him go. Nope. She jumps out of the car and assaults the cop. They both go to jail, he loses his license and is biking to work. On a positive note he did lose like 30lbs from not driving.

My Story

I had a similar experience with a lunatic. Let me call her JG. My first night of meeting JG she got plastered at dinner. As I am driving home, she calls me from the bar and asks to have more drinks. Of course, I made the mistake of saying yes. So started the previously mention (almost) 1-year relationship. This woman was repeatedly drunk, two or four bottles of wine on a Tuesday was the norm.

The personality changes were evident immediatly. When sober she was pretty nice. Still had a mouth like a trucker, but not too bad. Then the wine took over and she was a f*cking wild card. I was embarrassed on more than one occasion. Accusing me of sleeping with my neighbor and a slew of other things.

Then one day JG left my house plastered, calling me telling me she hit a telephone pole and asking me to come get her. Well, the telephone pole was a minivan with a Hispanic family inside. Yeah, and the cops were already there also. She was going to jail. Happy Thanksgiving. It cost me $1000 to bail her out. I tried to get her help, but after 11-months the last straw was when she hit me.

No one helped. Cops were called on multiple occasions and they were arseholes to me. It is funny how society blames the man, even when the woman is clearly drunk. There were red flags, I feel like a fool now, but it inspired me to write this post.

You Can’t Save Her

Repeat after me. I cannot save a person hell bent on destroying their own life. Never date an alcoholic or drug user with the intention of helping them. That’s a losing game. I know there are stretches of being single and it can get lonely. It is better than dating an alcoholic. The only thing that will happen is you will be brought down as well.

Conclusion: Never Date an Alcoholic

I write this blog to help you avoid the mistakes I made. I feel like there are two types of people you can learn from. Those who are killing it and those who f*cked up and want to help you avoid the mistakes they made. I am clearly the latter in this scenario. I was a fool, but I have seen it a million times with other men as well. Keep an eye on your partners booze habits, they do not get better, they get worse without some real desire to change.

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I will label “society” as the institutions that govern, and shape are values and beliefs. Can we really deny that weak men are being propped up in Hollywood? How about laziness and dependency being supported in the news? 15-years ago the words toxic masculinity didn’t exist (not together anyway), yet today you can’t read an article about men without this phrase being used.

Governments, the media, and corporations celebrate women, while men are disposable and toxic. Yes, we have always been disposable, but at least there wasn’t a drive to cut off our nuts. The results are, of course terrible for men, between less men in the work force to higher suicide rates, but that doesn’t seem to worry the powers that be.

So why does society want weak men? The motivation is the same as always: Money and Power. Throughout history those at the top want to control those at the bottom, no matter the cost to the latter. Historically who is the strongest among us? Men. Weaken them and control is easier. I will dive in further as to why society wants weak men.

Why Society Wants Weak Men: They are Easier to Milk

Those in charge treat people like they are cattle. Convincing us that chugging along in some corporate job, living paycheck to paycheck while spending all your money on useless crap is the best path. Getting you stuck in a life where you produce and spend, enriching others. More than 70% of families live paycheck to paycheck, they are stuck supporting the system.

Not having your financial life in order puts one in a position of weakness. Now you are dependent on your company, the government, or any one of the power-hungry organizations that want to live off you. Does your company want to cut your salary? Sure. Want you to take a DE&I course? You better. Your thoughts and opinions can no longer be your own, because your very financial existence depends on them.

Compare that with a minimalist, who has a years’ worth of salary saved up and a nice side hustle. Or even better a man who owns his own business. He can say “don’t like what I say, do, or think? F*ck off I don’t need you”. Nothing enrages a company more than when they cannot milk their employees. Weak men are easier to milk for every ounce of labor and time.

Why Society Wants Weak Men: They are Easier to Control

The pandemic taught me a lot about the lengths those in the ruling class will go to control people. Example after example of “do as I say, not as I do” by politicians and heads of media. Whether it was the arsehole mayor of Chicago who got her hair done, while ticketing those who didn’t comply or the parties from the California governor. See the rules are for the masses, not the elite!

I wasn’t particularly surprised about this, what was more surprising was how many men went along with the lockdowns. Weak men allow themselves to be controlled. Whether it is physically weak or mentally (or both) they let themselves be played the fool.

Arseholes at Davos will tell you not to drive your car while they fly their jets 50 miles. They will try to tell you what to eat or to support whatever social movement they are a part of, which makes them look good in front of their friends. As always, they want you to follow the rules, while they don’t… weak men are quick to comply.

Weak Men don’t ask Questions

Curious if Covid was started in a lab? Shut up, don’t ask. Wondering how a man can become a woman suddenly after thousands of years otherwise? Keep quiet. Weak men don’t ask questions, instead they go along with any propaganda being fed. The story can change and a weak man will just buy into the narrative. I think of the book (and movie) 1984 when one of the characters is told he was an enemy agent. He believed it saying he didn’t know it himself. He was weak and believe the lie he was fed without question.

We aren’t too far from that world. The media has changed its stories so many times on a variety of subjects, pointing your outrage where they want it, while ignoring other problems. Once again, it comes down to control. You never question the narrative; you allow them to tell you what is good for you. This allows them to stay rich and stay on top.

A Weak Man is a Dependent Man

If you do not take care of your health the pharmaceutical companies will certainly be there to give you pills for the rest of your life. Broke, keep working that dead end job your corporate overlords will take care of you. Just don’t think for yourself or they will take it all away. The arseholes at Davos realize the weaker you are the more you will depend on others to get by.

If you allow yourself to be in a position of weakness, then you will always need them. The elite hate strong, independent people. Why does the government care more about criminals than they do about business owners? Small businessmen and women are not dependent on their government overlords. The weak do not realize that these “leaders” are not trying to help them, they want their dependency.

Pharmaceutical companies rarely cure a disease. Doctors are little more than the street level drug dealers. Governments love that 70% of people live paycheck to paycheck. Every institution exists to control people and make them dependent. Strong people are their enemy.

Bottom Line They Want What You Have Earned (and more)

I am a capitalist at heart, I applaud the billionaire that earned his money, and he should reap the rewards for his hard work. My problem comes when they start telling me what to do with what I earned. They know that the weak won’t question oppressive taxes or unfair regulation. They will go along with the removal of meat from our diets (replaced with a chemical alternative).

Think I am crazy? They made a commercial that said, “in the future you will own nothing and be happy.” Of course, they tried to backtrack. F*ck off. In a world where we actually had a press, this would be splashed on the front page of every paper. Instead, those who showed the commercial were labeled as kooks. If you don’t own anything who does? If your home isn’t yours then whose is it? And what happens to your home if you question the narrative? They know the weaker you are the more likely you will follow their plan. They aren’t happy with what they have earned, they want your property and obedience as well.

Conclusion: Why Society Wants Weak Men

Maybe this sounds a little like a conspiracy theory, but they are telling us what they are doing. It is in the various institutions best interest to keep you scared, fat, broke, and weak. They want you dependent, while they split up the world. You me and all other “little people” mean nothing to them. I will get to how they keep you weak and how to prevent this in future posts, for now open your eyes to what is happening.

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I am a Libertarian, something I don’t normally share as I get older. Back in the day I was the typical billboard Libertarian, advertising to anyone who would listen as well as those who wouldn’t. My philosophy is leave each other the hell alone. Yes, sometimes I write to guide people in a more suitable direction (avoiding my mistakes), but I would never preach forcing people to act a certain way. Everyone should live their own life; this is exactly why a man should never be a liberal.

Lately this world just does not make sense to me. From forcing people to get vaccinated (I am no antivaxxer, I am vaccinated, but that was my choice), to curbs on free speech, we are constantly shown reminders of how much we are being controlled. I accept that liberals aren’t the only ones who do some of these things, but they scream the loudest (and wear the most glitter). Lately, they seem to be trying extra hard to control everyone else.

Men are a dying breed, and the more leftist the man the weaker he seems. Why else are those on the left trying to “redefine masculinity.” Historically speaking this is a new concept. The idea that men are evil for being men does not come from conservatives, it is a liberal mentality. We have gotten to the point to where when a man acts naturally, he is somehow bad (they love the word toxic). Liberalism makes men weaker and miserable. Let me give examples of why I believe a man should never be a liberal.

Liberals Expect Others to Solve Their Problems

A man should never be a Liberal because a true man solves his own problems. As always, this isn’t indicative of all liberals, but in general who are ones whining about how unfair everything is and demanding help? What group is pushing “student loan reform” AKA having someone else pay for your loans? It is sickening, what kind of grown adult would expect someone else to fund their bad choices?

Yes, yes I know it is societies fault. Taking out obvious fraud (usually caused by the school not the loan company) you made the choice to take out 100K in student loans as an “investment”. That basket weaving degree didn’t go as planned so now someone else has to pay for your stupidity?

Even if a man was defrauded it still does not make it clear how that is my responsibility. It is your problem, you fix it. I love when I see protestors holding up a sign demanding loan forgiveness, instead of, I do not know working a second job and paying down their debt.

This is just one of many examples, it seems like the Democratic party is fixated on solving the problems of those who made bad choices at the expense of those who made good ones. Of course, the politicians always slice off a big piece for themselves and friends. We are weaker as a nation (and as individuals) when we don’t solve our own problems. This is one of the many reasons a man should never be a liberal.

Liberals Bow to Authority

If this last two years taught me nothing else, it is some people are willing to turn over all of their power to those they feel are superior to them. In a million years I would never imagine half the country being OK with the economy being shut down. Can’t go to the gym…yes sir. Lost your job… certainly sir. Then they have the nerve to ridicule those who question the motives of bureaucrats that never had our best interest in mind. Men need to question authority. Well everyone, men and women should question it, but this blog is geared toward men. Blindly accepting that everyone should be forced to take a vaccine is weak minded. Men cannot afford to be weak. This happens through the government, but there are other avenues as well

Corporations are full of weak liberal men that bow to authority. “Wow his job grade is a D, mine is only a B which arse cheek should I kiss first!” People love the chain of command and will do anything to appease their master. Why else would so many accept the company sponsored thought process that there are hundreds of genders, not just two. An authority said so that is all that is needed. I do not see this with conservatives. No man should be a liberal because a liberal has a servant mentality. You can respect authority without blindly following it.

Liberals Worship Celebrity

Yes, so called conservatives do this as well. Looking at you guy wearing the red hat. Still, who is more likely to wait in line to get the autograph of an actor or baseball player? Who are the people that worship royalty or think Beyoncé is a goddess? This is a liberal mentality, and it is sad. Just go onto Yahoo news or Entertainment weekly and see how much they kiss up to movie stars or singers. Reminder, a movie star is more important than you, so act accordingly! Many then listen (and take) the advice of a bunch of “stars” on TV.

It isn’t just actors who get treated like royalty. Look no further than our very own Dr. Fauci posing on the cover of magazines, showing how even government officials are worshiped. No matter how many times he is wrong or how poorly he does his job there is always an excuse. Liberals prop him up, while ignoring other qualified doctors. To liberals celebrities are infallible.

No man should ever worship someone on T.V. and even less so a government official. Waiting on a line to get some guys autograph just looks pathetic. Respect people and their accomplishments of course, just don’t voluntarily put them ahead of yourself. Actors are not important, either are singers or politicians. A man should not be a liberal, because most liberals bow down to those they feel inferior to.

Liberals Love to Play the Victim in Their own Lives

Related to the first entry, is this victim mentality. A man takes responsibility for himself. This is not something common among Democratic voters. Everything is another’s fault. According to most liberals, we can’t get ahead because of rich people. It is not the thousands of dollars wasted and the hours of TV a night, no you are poor because of others. Everything, their race, gender, orientation it is all working against them. That is not to say that people do not face discrimination, I acknowledge there are assholes out there. Yet it is certainly not the number one factor in why they turned out to be a failure.

If you play the game of life like you are at a constant disadvantage, then you already lost. Which political mindset is more likely to tell people they cannot win so don’t even try, Liberals or conservatives? Obviously the former, every word out of their mouth is geared at how oppressed they are. In a sense being oppressed makes them feel important and gives them self worth. After they wasted half their lives with irresponsible decisions they turn around and blame others. Usually clamoring to take from those people, which brings me to my next point.

Liberals Reward bad Behavior and Punish Good choices

Why is it that the rich should pay more taxes, while those who are constantly struggling get to live off the people that produce the wealth? There is nothing more maddening than the mentality of liberals who feel they can take the rewards from the people who succeeded. You are successful so somehow you owe society more than you already provided.

The opposite is also true. I am so sick of people making excuses for their lifetime of screw ups. Single mother with three kids, reward them. Man illegally crosses the border, here is some insurance. Get your PHD in the history of dance, give that guy some cash. A man should never be a liberal because a man values hard work (which liberals clearly don’t). He values being rewarded for making the right choices, because he makes the right choices himself. That just does not seem like the theme of the democratic platform.

Finally Liberals Don’t Accept Reality

Reality… people are not beautiful at any size. Reality… a single mother with four kids is not a “Catch.” I have mentioned before the importance of accepting the reality of a situation. Lying to yourself does not solve problems. People love to make excuses about their situation to feel better. That is dangerous.

Liberals love to try and bend the world to how they believe it should be, not how it actually is. They are great at lying to themselves. Look no further than thinking that a man can have a child and you will see how disconnected to the real-world modern liberals are. Trying to get the whole world to buy into the lie that a mental illness is somehow perfectly natural is foolish.

A man trying to improve his life does not have the luxury of living on fantasy island. It is important for anyone who wants to make their life better to recognize their shortcomings and fix them. Expecting reality to change for you is a losing game. A man should never be a liberal because a man should always want to improve. You accomplish this by the being best version of yourself, not hoping people “love you for you” (no matter how decrepit).

Conclusion: Why no Man Should be a Liberal

Hopefully this will be one of the few times I mention politics. To me it is a waste of time altogether. Still the modern liberal mind set has been irking me as of late. A life of blaming everyone else for your problems, while putting down those who are more successful does nothing for you. Stop joining the herd liberals and come over to the other side!

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Although I was not completely without fault (we are never completely without fault), any objective viewer would agree I was treated unfairly in both cases. The result of a lot of pent up anger is this blog.

Talking to friends, listening to the news and YouTube I realize something…I am not alone. I am not the only one who had everything taken from them. I am not the only person who left their happiness and freedom in someone else’s hands, only to have those hands squeeze tightly.

I decided I want more… no scratch that I want everything I can get. No longer am I going to let my own happiness and strength be dependent on the whims of others. I will not follow the ordinary path while feeling trap in existence. I need to live a free life.

That is the purpose of A Reinvented Man. Helping men move toward a free life. Helping men move out of the corporate rat race and traps of relationships and into an existence of their choosing.

Every article will be designed to point us to an unshackled existence. My topics will be on divorce/relationships, corporate life, alternative sources of income, men’s travel, and personal improvement. I will also write a few articles warning our younger brethren about the pitfalls of life.

I desire a free life… that is what America promised us after all. I am talking traveling the world, sitting on the beach somewhere with a few dozen twenty something year old women around me on a Tuesday afternoon (holding a nice drink). No one telling me to work on Sunday, no one yelling at me for pillows left on the floor, just living my one and only life how I want…by my own design.

Crazy? Perhaps… but I have one shot at this existence, I will make it as wonderful as it can be….

So, join me, agree with me or disagree with me…. tell me I am crazy.

I do think I need to add the disclaimer that this is not an anti-woman site (or even an anti-relationship site). My goal is not to insult all women or speak as if they are below us. In fact, some articles may help women as much as men. If you are a woman, I hope there are places on this site that help you find the freedom you are looking for as well.

I will however call women on their B.S. when it is necessary. I will also not coddle them and support how oppressed they think they are. Many of today’s problems for men can, in part, be due to how we have weakened themselves to make women feel stronger.

The purpose of A Reinvented Man is to help men (and myself) become stronger and live the life they really crave. To have what they desire guilt free and not watch their lives go by from a cage. I am not any sort of expert, just someone who was put through the ringer and had his eyes opened. These are my experiences and my thoughts … we all have our own.

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The question puzzles me, should a man remarry after divorce? For the most part the answer is no, especially if you have no future plans to have kids. The work involved in getting into another marriage combined with how quickly it can fall apart is a tough sell for a man who has been burned by the institution. Not to mention marriage can be a dream killer in and of itself. Since I have no plans to have kids in the future, what do I gain by getting married?

I think too many men jump right back into another relationship and marriage, before thinking this through. Statistics back this up, 70% of divorced men will remarry… although you are more likely to get divorced a second time when you do. I linked this article for reference.

The Catch 22 About Marriage

When examining the question should a man remarry after a divorce, we must acknowledge marriage puts men in a tough situation. I believe a wife will never be genuinely happy and attracted to a man unless he is living his best life. This goes beyond just making a lot of money, it is living on his own terms. Yes, financial independence is part of it, but he needs to be living day in and day out the life he wants. Making progress toward the goals that are important to him. The confidence and happiness that this brings is attractive to a woman.

When a man looks for fulfillment solely from finding a wife or girlfriend, he is no longer concentrating on making his life better. I have made this mistake so many times, that I should have my head examined. I let other areas in my life slip, looking needy and weak. This caused the attraction levels to drop and the relationship to end. When you are not the best version of yourself you will destroy your relationship by destroying attraction.

Here is the catch 22 if I am divorced, especially if I already have kids and if I am currently living my best life. Why do I need a serious relationship or marriage? Basically, what I am saying is you cannot have a successful marriage unless you are happy with success outside your marriage, but then why risk that happiness with marriage? This is why the answer to the question should a man remarry leans toward no.

Marriage is About Compromise

There are men out there who had the opposite problem, they loved their job and they worked “too much”. I would argue that most of these men do not love what they do but are trying to get ahead for their family, but let us say I am wrong. If this is what led to divorce, do you really want to remarry and be in the same situation? What would change if you remarried someone else? You will still want to be working all day and the women may still grow to resent you. Once again you will have added pressure on your marriage.

Marriage Can Kill Some Dreams

Sometimes dreams are ridiculous, but just because they seem crazy does not mean they are impossible. If you are slugging away at a job you hate, but you want to start a YouTube channel (random example). Women may judge you harshly, especially when there are failures. Any worthwhile endeavor will have failures. Now you have a critic telling you how ridiculous you are which will cut you down further. You also must worry about pulling your financial weight in the relationship and taking care of your family, so risks maybe harder to take.

I have witnessed this not only in my marriage, but also in others as well. If you are not taking the safe and boring route of being a corporate lap dog, women may respect you less. A girl I dated told me how her ex-husband bought some land that did not appreciate like he expected it to. She mentioned to me this caused her to lose reverence for him (she later cheated on him). Who needs the threat of losing one’s wife and family if there is a failure? This prevents many dreams from becoming a reality.

Another Example

This just popped into my head so I thought I would express it. The former waitress and financial advisor Suzy’s Orman had a woman guest on her show complaining how her husband’s business failed. Suzy (paraphrased) response was this ” I can’t tell you how many times couples got into financial trouble because some man started his own business”. BINGO, that is my point, now you are a disappointment to your wife because you chased a dream. Why get remarried and put yourself through that again? Still clearly some men want to get remarried, so this is my take on it.

When Should a Man Get Remarried After Divorce?

If you are one of those guys who wants a woman in their life (and clearly never heard about Pattaya) then you need to follow some rules. You cannot just jump right back in with the next girl because you have a fear of being alone. Below is the mindset I believe you need before pulling the trigger.

Mindset Needed …

1. Fix Yourself: Is your place always a mess? Are you overweight? When asking should a man remarry after divorce, you need to ask what qualities you had that made you unattractive. Fix those problems and keep them fixed. Do not just lose a bunch of weight or get your finances in order just to resort back to your old ways when you get remarried. Understand this, I am not telling you to fix yourself to get a woman, you need to be the best version of yourself regardless if you get hitched again or not. This will have the bonus of keeping your second marriage intact.
2. Have Your Own Dreams that You are Making Progress Toward: Do you want to start a business or buy some beach front property? Do it first, make it part of your life, then get the wife. Not the other way around. If you come into a marriage without aiming for what you want your dreams will be crushed. The complaints will start rolling in about how you are wasting time and money. Even if you are successful you will hear how you never have time for the marriage anymore.
3. Make Her Fit into Your Life: In your first marriage you tried building a life together… how did that work out for you? When considering the question should a man remarry after divorce, you need to find the right woman for your lifestyle. Does she understand what you are trying to accomplish or is she expecting you to throw that all away and live life by her means? If you cannot find a woman that accepts what you are building towards, do not get remarried.

Bottom Line: Should a Man Remarry After Divorce

Yeah, yeah marriage is about compromise and building a life together, I am going to call B.S. on that. Most likely you tried that in your first marriage with heart breaking results. Now it is time to live your life, if you can find a woman to come along for the ride great, if not do not get remarried. If I was being honest this advice can be given to anyone getting married, not just remarried.

Conclusion: Should a Man Remarry After Divorce

As mentioned in the first paragraph I am separated at the moment. If a reconciliation is in the cards, I will stay married, but there will be some changes to adopt some of the things mentioned above. On the other hand, if it leads to divorce, I cannot see myself remarrying. First, many of my dreams are not conducive to marriage. Secondly, what is in it for me? I won’t die alone if I am married? Sorry, we all die alone… Who knows, this is the recently separated me talking, maybe 5 years from now I will have a different point of view? As of now to answer the question should a man remarry after divorce, my two cents are NOPE!

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