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We have all been there. You meet someone on one of the fifty or so dating sites and things are going swimmingly. Then out of the blue, crickets, this chick is gone. Getting ghosted on a dating site sucks. It is hard enough to make first contact. Then mid conversation, somewhere between "where are you from" and '''what are you doing this weekend" she disappears. There are many reasons why a woman will ghost you on a dating site. First, for those of you who don't know, ghosting is when a person inexplicitly stops messaging (really disappears without a trace in any stage of the relationship). There might be no rhyme or reason to it, or she may have a great reason to stop talking to you. This is the nature of dating online. It happens to me, it will, or more probably already did, happen to you. Below are eight reasons why you are getting ghosted on a dating site. You Said Something Creepy This one is on you. Did you start sending the eggplant emoji a little too quickly? How about confessing your undying love for someone you never met. I have seen a lot of these messages, some of you try a bit too hard. The purpose of writing back and forth is to get the number and then ultimately the date. Say just enough to reach those ends. No DP's, no long-drawn-out stories, just some light conversation with humor (appropriate humor) show some interest and move on. You are a stranger to this person, do not act like a lunatic or she will disappear. You Were Acting Like a Pen Pal Another reason you are getting ghosted on a dating site is you are dragging the whole process out. Unless you are in prison there is no need for 50 messages back and forth. You know the saying sh*t or get off the pot. Well here it is! Make your move. Endless messages back and forth are useless and can make a woman lose interest. All the information you really need should come from an actual encounter (or at least a phone call). Like I mentioned earlier, the only purpose of messaging is to meet. If she is the one dragging it out, maybe you should be the one that is ghosting. If you want to just message back and forth go to Redditt Why You are Getting Ghosted on a Dating Site: She Isn't Even Looking for Something Women can be flat out flakes. Sometimes they are on a dating site to kill time. They like to write messages to keep themselves occupied but are not even sure they want a relationship or to meet up. You are a boredom fix to them. When they get tired they use any excuse (or none at all) to just stop writing. These types of people are annoying. Who knows why women are going on to a dating site without the actual desire to date, but it gets old. They use it similarly to Facebook or Instagram. Do not take it personally, women like this are everywhere. If you truly were making an honest attempt and she just fades away, she was only interested in a way to kill her boredom. She is Talking to Multiple Men (And she picked someone else) This is a very likely scenario. Men are thirsty and these thirsty men are making it harder for the rest of us. We outnumber women on these dating sites by like 3 to 1. Of course, with these numbers you will get ghosted on a dating site! This is why you need to meet a woman as soon as possible. She is talking to probably six other guys , and it gets tiring and confusing. Be the one who stands out and actually moves the process forward. Do not expect some kind of connection while messaging back and forth. You should also be talking to multiple people. Dating sites have made us into pictures in a catalog. Women have plenty of pictures to pick so yours might get thrown by the wayside. Why are you Getting Ghosted on a Dating Site: You are Boring If you are typing the same generic message... "how was your day?" etc... you increase your chances of being ghosted. As mentioned, the conversation shouldn't go on too long and you do not want to be creepy. You do want to show you are fun in some ways. Mix it up, joke around and create some interest. Live an interesting life and you will attract more people. The same old "how are you" message does not cut it anymore. Remember she is probably talking to six different people, you need to keep her attention. Bottom line to avoid being ghosted on a dating site, be interesting. She is Fed Up with the Process We have all been there. Online dating sucks for everyone. Sometimes you do nothing wrong, but she is just tired of the whole process. You might notice her profile just disappears or she is never active on the site. In this case it isn't you, it is her. Move on, do not take it personally. I can relate, there is only so much stress people can take of the endless, faceless chatter that is the hell of online dating. I will give a person a pass if this is why they ghosted me Of course, there is no way of knowing. She Just Wants Attention Similar to some of the above, the women you are speaking with use these sites to make herself feel better, talking to 100 different people. She uses online dating as an ego boost for her otherwise pathetic life. A lot of women are like this, they just desire the feeling they are wanted without giving anything in return. She will probably cycle through a ton of men, sleeping with a handful Unfortunately, there are too many guys that will encourage this behavior. I dare you to look at a female friends (even a ugly one) dating messages. Countless men will contact them. These women love the dopamine hit of talking to a guy and when push comes to shove they disappear with the majority of them. I can't tell you how many women go missing as soon as I look to meet up with them. Why else were they talking to me if it wasn't for mindless attention? She is Fake Didn't pony up your crypto fast enough... poof she is gone. Again, I mentioned this in my last post here, there are a lot of scammers on these sites. They are relatively easy to figure out but are getting better at hiding their identity. Once they realize they can't get any (or anymore?) money out of you they disappear. It is a sad truth about todays world that everything can be a scam. Even dating now has turned into a grift. If all you get is ghosted by these women consider yourself lucky. A lot of people had to deal with worse than that. If she looks too good to be true and then suddenly disappears, she was probably a he. Conclusion: 8 Reasons Why You are Getting Ghosted on a Dating Site Getting ghosted when talking to someone is frustrating. Understand that it is part of the game we all decided to play. If you are trading real life encounters with "hi" to a stranger with photoshopped pictures you must put up with some drawbacks. As mentioned, it happened to me on several occasions. Hell, I have done it myself. Sometimes the vibe just isn't there and you find yourself letting it go. Too many choices are probably making it worse. Online dating is a numbers game, keep talking and improving.